My chosen family (my personal tribe, my heart people, whatever you want to call it) come from all over the world.
But I choose them, and I also consciously choose when someone is no longer counted among my people.
When you are among my people, I will so anything in my power to keep you safe, especially if it is something as simple as staying awake so you can sleep.
(I’ll apparently also make excuses for your shit behaviour towards me when something should be a red fucking flag, like: you losing your shit about my saying something nice about someone else.)
And if you are among my people, I will call you in: we will have a one-on-one conversation about what happened and why it is an issue.
No one else needs to know.
When you are of my people, if I say I forgive you, then whatever took place will not affect how I treat you.
But I will not say, “I forgive you,” if I do not mean it.
And if I cannot make myself say it, I will let you go. I will choose to walk away from you and your harms.
When you are no longer of my people I may CHOOSE to remain quiet about the circumstances of our falling out, but I do not owe you anything.
And when you are no longer of my people, you no longer am obligated to call you in, so if you continue your bullshit, expect to be called out.